Stop Asking WHY: Loving Addicts Until They Recover

On today’s episode of The Recovered On Purpose Show I take a deep dive into the methods a family or loved one of an addict can love their addict while they are still in their addiction and how you can protect yourself with boundaries and what those boundaries are.

Marsha Vanwynsberghe is a Storytelling Business Coach, Speaker, Author & Podcaster

Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”.  She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7 times in collaborative books including “Owning Your Choices”, sharing inspiring stories of courage from women around the world.

Through her tools, NLP certifications, programs, coaching and two podcasts, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life.  She empowers women how to own and stand on their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.

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Introduction To Helping a Loved One Struggling With Addiction

Imagine finding out that someone you care deeply about is struggling with addiction. The wave of emotions—confusion, fear, and helplessness—can be overwhelming. This is a reality for many family members who suddenly find themselves on an unexpected and challenging path. Understanding how to support a loved one through such a difficult time can make all the difference in their recovery process.

Supporting an addict isn’t just crucial for their well-being; it’s also essential for the mental and emotional health of their loved ones. This blog post aims to guide family members and support groups by offering practical insights and strategies for effectively helping someone battling addiction. Here, you’ll learn what addiction really means, the role you can play, and why self-care is just as important.

Understanding Addiction For Mothers of Addicts with Marsha Vanwynsberghe

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Addiction is often misunderstood. Many people think it’s a sign of moral failure or weakness, but it’s actually a chronic disease that affects the brain. Like diabetes or heart disease, addiction requires proper treatment and management. It’s not something someone can simply “choose” to stop doing.


Common Misconceptions about Addiction and Loving an Addict

One of the biggest hurdles in supporting an addict is understanding what addiction truly is. Misconceptions like “addicts lack willpower” or “they just need to try harder” can create barriers to effective support. In reality, addiction alters the brain’s chemistry, making it incredibly difficult for someone to quit without help.


The Role of a Support System for Mothers of Addicts

Family members and close friends often wonder how they can make a positive impact. Believe it or not, you play a crucial role in recovery. A supportive environment can significantly boost the chances of a successful recovery.

How Family Members Can Be Part of the Solution

Your involvement can make all the difference. By offering emotional support, helping with practical needs, or simply being there to listen, you provide a lifeline that can aid in recovery. It’s about being part of a team that works together to beat addiction.

The Impact of a Supportive Environment on Recovery

A supportive environment has been shown to lower relapse rates and improve mental health outcomes. When addicts feel supported and understood, they’re more likely to stick to their treatment plans and actively engage in their recovery process.

Practical Ways to Help as a Loved One Of an Addict

Knowing how to help isn’t always straightforward. Here are some practical ways to offer meaningful support.


Communication Strategies

Effective communication is key. Setting boundaries while showing empathy can create a balanced approach that supports both the addict and yourself. Discussing your concerns openly and honestly, without judgment, can encourage your loved one to seek help.

Encouraging Treatment and Seeking Professional Help

Sometimes, the best way to help is by guiding your loved one to professional treatment options. Encourage them to speak with healthcare providers, join support groups, or enter rehab programs. Being there to support them through these steps can be incredibly powerful.

Self-Care for Supporters

Supporting an addict can be emotionally draining. It’s essential to take care of yourself as well.

The Importance of Setting Boundaries and Managing Emotions

Setting boundaries isn’t about distancing yourself; it’s about protecting your emotional well-being. It’s okay to say no when something feels too overwhelming. Managing your own emotions through self-care practices can make you a more effective supporter.

Seeking Support for Yourself

You don’t have to go through this alone. Joining support groups or seeking therapy can provide you with the emotional tools you need to support your loved one effectively. It’s okay to ask for help; your well-being is important too.


A strong support system can significantly boost an addict’s chances of recovery. But remember, your well-being is just as crucial. Taking care of yourself ensures you’re in the best position to help your loved one. Both the addict and their family can emerge stronger by working together and seeking support.

Additional Resources

For more information on how to support a loved one struggling with addiction, here are some valuable resources:

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